What is... Keeping Cool, Calm, Collected & Healthy When The Pressure Is On! Stress? Presenter -- Martha N. Bryan marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com 425-337-1838 Stress is... Our internal response to the outside world. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Stress originates... not out there,... But Only in our mind. Our Thinking... * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * Makes it so! Inability to Remain Cool Calm & Collected........ The Cause 10 10 10 10 10 10 4 1
Remaining In Control With Balanced Life Family Spirit Health Social Balanced Wheel Wheel Spirit Health Financial Career Family Social Unbalanced Wheel Financial Career Two Kinds Of Stress Optimal Performance Stress... is good when you when it makes you more alert and energized, and leads to concentrated effort and high levels of performance. Your Wheel... The Walk, Talk and Sound When it is Balanced When it is Not Poor Performance Stress... can be bad for you when it makes you feel churned up inside, tense, confused, unable to concentrate, and out of control; and it results in poor performance, illness, or death. 2
Keeping Cool & Collected... Takes a Life In Balance Congruity... Experiencing Balance, Harmony, And Appropriateness With The Events In Our Life. what you value how you live Your values should be your guide to remaining in control and productive. Self - actualization will come when you form a congruity between what you value (believe) and how you live (perform). Means Behaviorally Supporting Your Values. Keeping Cool... By Loving Your Work Sure Road to Stress.......... Hate That Job Clarity and commitment to mission / goals A passion for excellence Lifelong growth / development Creation / management of change Ability to learn from mistakes, self-correct / move on Commitment to mastery of a talent or skill Strong sense of personal awareness / accountability 3
Keeping Cool... By Loving Your Work Both healthy independence & interdependence Ability to communicate for understanding Empowerment of self & others Ability to take care of themselves Risk, experimentation & growth Expectation of positive results Ability to be grateful Ability to experience life to the fullest degree Losing Your Cool... Habits "There are a thousand excuses for every failure but never a good reason." ~ Mark Twain Having no definition of success Not knowing what you really want Unclear goals / purpose Lack of commitment to goals Lack of self-discipline / putting off Working first on what is due first Doing only what is required / getting sidetracked (Continued) Losing Your Cool... Habits (Continued) Excusitis (real creative with excuses) Unable to work effectively with others Negative thinking / problem conscious Thinking something outside self will bring happiness Lets mistakes defeat them Tunnel vision "Auto pilot" existence too attached to comfort zone Listlessness (no energy) Your Life Does Not Get Better By Chance, It Gets Better By Change. ~ Jim Rohn Getting Clarity About What Is Important... This Will Help Three Choices Personal Mission Retirement Speech Or Obituary 4
What Is The Difference? Steps To Making Plans Identify the goal. List the benefits. Dream? Wish? Goal? List the losses. List the obstacles to overcome. List the people who can help. Develop a plan of action. Set a date for accomplishment. How Does A Goal Start? "Nothing is more powerful than a human soul on fire. Done Correctly, Your Plan Will Entail... Defining Your Mission, Clarifying Your Vision Of What You Would Like, Defining Your Values, Identifying Your Dreams, Then... Developing The Goals And Objectives (The Roadmap) That Will Guide You To Where You Want To Go. You Don t... make a cake without a recipe, take a trip without a map, build a house without a blueprint, And, you don t get the most out of your work and life without a plan of action. Keeping Cool Means... Creating The Job For You Take 100 % responsibility for you. Remember... the "someday Isle" is now! Dream big dreams. Develop a mission / purpose. Warm up to your job or find a new one. Become "self-employed. Give up the 40 hour week. Become a learning machine. Focus on strengths. Master the art of communication. Lose yourself to serving others. Surround yourself with winners. 5
Keeping Cool Means... Creating The Job For You To Keep Cool, Calm & Collected... Visualize accomplishing your goals and plans. Form partnerships with those who can help you reach your goals. Use no alibis. Avoid comfort zone ruts. Become a risk taker. Constantly ask yourself, "What am I trying to accomplish? Evaluate to find the critical path. Have a passion for excellence. Celebrate accomplishments. Never! Never! Never give up! Stay In That Circle of Influence. Circle of Circle of Influence Concern You Have More Control... Than You May Think What you do with most of your free time How much energy you exert on each task Your thoughts and imagination Your attitude & Your tongue Who you choose as role models Your commitment Causes which you give your time and ideas Your memberships How you play your cards Your concerns and worries Your response to difficult people and times What the Individual Can Do... To Get Workplace Needs Met The Need For Purpose The Need For Appreciation The Need For Control The Need To Belong 6
Satisfying Your Workplace Needs Loving Work Have Task Interest. Be The Best. Keep Yourself Motivated. Play By The Rules. Identify People Who Can Help. Get Results. Identify The Reward System. Satisfying Your Workplace Needs Loving Work (Continued) Come To Terms With The Fear Of Failure. Come To Terms With The Fear Of Rejection. Get Feedback. Make Changes Based On Results Needed. Take A Wholistic Approach. Commit To Life Long Learning. Learn From Role Models. (Continued) Remaining in Control How do You do it? Those Best Able to Remain in Control & Productive High Self-Esteem (Sense of Worth) Feel They Can Control World Around Them Are Challenged by Change Are Committed & Intensely Involved in What They Do Regard Challenge as an Opportunity to Grow Ful The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. ~ William James 7
Keeping Cool, Calm, and Collected When the Pressure Is On Have "escape routes. Remind yourself of your good qualities. Talk to yourself. Set realistic goals and expectations. Take care of number one. Establish quiet time. Accept change. Focus on areas you can control. Negotiate and re-engineer pressure situations. Learn how to spot your stress warning signals. Stay informed about what is happening. Keeping Cool, Calm & Collected when The Pressure is On Keep current in your field. Have a plan "B". Be a problem solver. Use weekends as a change of pace. Everyday do something you really enjoy. Have an optimistic view of the world... focus on the positive. Be flexible in your attitudes... you may not know the full story. Anticipate corporate change by constantly updating your skills. Make friends with non-worriers. Learn from those who are best able to manage stress. Keeping Cool, Calm & Collected When the Pressure Is On The End... Ask a colleague to let you know when you appear to be stressed. Maintain your network and support groups. Have a reward system. Balance your life. Thank You! Go with the flow. Learn to say "no. Have a positive mental attitude. Maintain sensible perspective and a sense of humor. Warm up to your job or find a new one. Martha N. Bryan 425-337-1838 marthabryan@bryanandbryanassoc.com 8